7 Things I Learned At 27

It’s that time of the birth chart again. I’m closing the chapter on another year older and reflecting on the life lessons this year has brought me. Here are 7 things I learned at 27.

Things will not always happen when you want them to.

I was supposed to go to India at 27. Twice that trip got moved. I was devastated the first time and understood the message from The Universe the second time—not yet. Things will not always happen when you want them to.

You might try and make them happen multiple times but The Universe will continue to say not yet. Who knows (I do) maybe it will happen way better than you were trying to make it happen. Focus on other things you want to do. In the end, you’ll get all the desires in your heart. I promise.

People will come back to your life to remind you how much you’ve grown.

Life will always send you guides. Sometimes they’re a blessing, other times a lesson. At 27 I was sent a lot of people. Two acquaintances that once had my heart came back into my life and instead of feeling regret or anger, I noticed I grew. I did not want what I thought I wanted anymore. I wanted more.

For the first time ever I felt indifferent. A new feeling but a good one. I now understand Taylor Swift. But only for that reference. People will come back to your life to remind you how much you’ve grown. The Universe is not out to get you, it’s just trying to make sure you’re ready for the next best thing.

Dying your hair isn’t scary, it’s brave.

I started getting my hair done, like actually going and having someone cut and color my hair, for the first time not too long ago. A new act fo self-care I allowed myself to have. I’ve always been frugal. The second color job I wanted was out of my comfort zone, but always on my bucket list. I wanted to go red. Yeah. I felt you grasp your pearls girl.

I realized after the fear of it all, I was way too worried about what other people thought and less concerned about what I wanted. It opened my eyes to how I felt about doing the things I wanted to do. What else was I way too worried about that was causing me to not go out and do it? Dying your hair the color you want, or doing what you want isn’t scary—it’s brave. Go be brave. Just do it.

We never lose those who die. They are a part of us.

I went to my first funeral when I was 27. Saying that out loud reminds me of my privilege. My grandmother died and I was there for my mother. I didn’t call my grandmother enough. I didn’t spend as much time with her as I should have and wanted to.

The experience reminded me how precious life was and what she taught me. We never lose those who die. They are a part of us. I am remembering her now. I am reminded of her certain days, she appears in different ways. Try to remember those who left this Earth by trying to remember what they taught you. That way, they will always be with you.

Giving yourself a writing trip will help you get some writing done but it will also help heal things.

Instead of my postponed India trip, I decided to use the time to go on my first writing trip to New York City. It had been more than ten years since I had stepped foot in the city. A long time ago I wanted to live there. My life took a different course when I was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes at fifteen. I had no idea how much I resented my body for not letting me live the life I had wanted back then.

While I took some time to research my novel, I also took some time to write and face some of the things that had been blocking my writing. Giving yourself a writing trip will help you get some writing done, but it will also help heal things. Creativity is spiritual. What have you been needing to heal? Maybe it’s time to give it some love. You’ll come out lovely. Babe, it’s time.

Vision boards work.

Ugh…YUP. Have you ever tried a vision board? 27 was the year I attempted one. The first time I tried a vision board I wasn’t specific enough. Thus, I did not see many results. At my second attempt at a vision board, I was way more specific. I started seeing results the week after I made it.

After the confirmation that this concept has something behind it (gee I don’t know maybe The Universe?) I went full vision board party and made one for all aspects of my life. The thing about vision boards is that you have to put in the work. A successful vision board is specific but also gives you things to take action on. You have to work with The Universe, remember? What do you want? Let’s make it happen. Trust me. Vision boards work.

Sharing your gifts with the world helps others do the same.

I started a gratitude journal at 27. It truly has changed the way I worry. I am more present and able to see how I can heal myself in different ways. While healing my relationship with my body this birth year, I have started to allow myself to share some of my other creative gifts with the world.

As I continue to inspire, I find that my bravery and vulnerability help others feel brave too. Sharing your gifts with the world helps others do the same. Now more than ever we need people to be brave and share their gifts with the world. The only way for us to heal is if we start healing ourselves.