DEAR LOVELY,

Stop chasing perfection.

Love, you are killing yourself. Stop. Don’t make it perfect. It wouldn’t be a lovely letter if I didn’t say easier said than done. Believe me, I know. It’s harder to do. To stop. I am right there with you.

I know there are parts of your perfectionism that are hard to control. To those parts of you, I offer you love. I know it’s hard. I struggle with it too. Sometimes I want things to go one way or I want to do things in order. Life doesn’t work that way. We need to be reminded more often that there are some things we just cannot control. Let go of the reigns a bit.

Is this right?

For a long time, I struggled with: Is this right? Am I doing it right? Am I making the wrong choice? I didn’t want to be wrong. I searched for the reason why I kept asking myself this question. Where did it come from? It’s different for everyone, but a part of it was making sure I was in control. I wanted to do things right the first time, I wanted all my choices to be perfect.

Stop. Take a breath.

Looking back, I realized that even when I thought I made a wrong choice, it was right because I made it. When I was doing something wrong, I was learning. The fork in the road or the action we choose to keep repeating will always lead you where you’re meant to be. No matter how many left turns we take, or how many times we try, it’s all part of the process.

So next time you find yourself seeking perfection, pause and take a breath. You’re on the right path, you made the right choice, you’re doing things right. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

With love,